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This website is going to be under going changes. We would hope quickly, but we are going to be dealing with the government so that will slow us down. The story of how the children were removed from their Mother’s custody is the Honest to God Truth. There has been a gross miscarriage of Justice and a violation of the Mother’s Civil Rights, and the misuse of well intentioned law here in Oklahoma - the Parenting Coordinator Act.

The involved parties: The Mother. The dad. The children Chrissie and Ricky, 9 and 5. Big Bubba, 20, Chrissie and Ricky’s ½ brother - Mom’s from a previous marriage. Aunt Deb, and her husband, Uncle. We had a shared living arrangement off and on since 1999. We grown ups were/are all truck drivers. That arrangement continue after the dad left in 2005.

I WILL NOT STAND QUIETLY BY WHILE MY CHILDREN ARE SNATCHED AWAY !

We are not showing the children’s faces so that the dad won’t say we are exploiting or endangering the children.

This website has been made to share with the World the most awful ordeal for a Mom, Aunts, Uncles, and kids of an extended family.

If this can happen to this loving law abiding family it could very well happen to you!

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I am Mom, I have been going through a divorce for almost 4 years. I am a hard worker. I do not do drugs, I do not smoke, I do not drink, I have never brought any strange men into my home for any wild romps, I do not beat my children, I do not burn them with cigarettes. I never been involved in any illegal activities.
I spoil my children as much as I am able to financially. I had a big garden area plowed up so we could grow their favorite things - watermelon, cucumbers, and tomatoes. I give my kids anything I can, they are my number one priority

WHY HAVE MY CHILDREN BEEN REMOVED FROM MY CUSTODY?
I HAVE NEVER BEEN ALLOWED TO TESTIFY I N COURT.

Over this past Thanksgiving/Christmas a couple of inappropriate activities happened at the dad’s house. Chrissie told Mom. Mom asked Chrissie what she wanted to do about it. She wanted to go to the Police. They went to the Police and filed a report. Because of the court case I won’t go into any more detail of this. The details must go through the court.
Three days later.... we received a phone call from D.H.S. There was a complaint that we yelled at the children and threatened to kill our cats if the children didn’t do what we wanted. We invited D.H.S. to our house as soon as possible. They came into our home and investigated.
Their finding was that Mom was stressed and they offered to get the children into counseling. Chrissie’s Therapist at the Domestic Violence Shelter had quit. Chrissie was on several waiting lists all the local centers, the waiting lists are long. There are not many centers that treat children. So Mommy was willing to go to parenting classes and Aunt Deb wasn’t seen as a threat. All D.H.S. asked of Aunt Deb was to met with the person from Oklahoma Children’s Service that was to come into the home weekly. This began the end of January. There were no problems with Mom or Aunt Deb. - Big Bubba was out in California was/is staying with Aunt Diane, to help her out due to some health issues while he was getting ready for college. He came back to Oklahoma in March to testify in court. he was to testify about his step-dad’s past child rearing techniques, and how he and his Mom were treated during the marriage. -

The last day Oklahoma Children’s Services was in our home was May 12, 2009 about 3:30pm . What did we, Mom and Aunt Deb do between then and May 15th at about 3:00pm to be such a huge threat to the children?????

THE CHILDREN WERE NOT REMOVED FROM MOM’S CUSTODY. AUNT DEB WAS ALLOWED TO CARE FOR THE CHILDREN WHILE MOM WORKED.


I never got to testify on my and my children’s behalf.
They were ripped away like I had been a child abuser or a terrible felon.

CHRISSIE 9

RICKY 5

The Judge walked my babies out of the courtroom in front of me and I didn’t even get to say good bye!

I now have to have supervised visitation while I visit my children that I treasure.

Aunt Deb became the Family-Nanny in 1999. She and Big Bubba have spent the most time with thechildren because I had to work. Now Auntie and Big Bubba are forbidden to see the children.
None of my Brothers and Sisters are allowed to see or talk to the children.
None of us got to testify and we lost my kids. I want my children back!

This is not just about me, a lot of women in my battered women’s group are going through this. This is not a decision based on who is the best parent, but who has the money for it. This is a part of our system that is very wrong and needs to be addressed.

Aunt Deb and Big Bubba's story and our family history...

This is an awful ordeal for this extended family. And it’s sad to say it’s all because the dad wasn't getting his own way anymore. He is a really bad Control Freak and he isn’t very honest either I am sorry to say . I will not go into any details of the divorce proceedings.
The only part of the court related issues that lead us here is there was a Parenting Coordinator that both parties were suppose to go see. This would help the court decide which parent got the children. Mom makes $9.20 an hour 28-32 hours a week. So Mom decided to use April’s child support/alimony payment to pay $800.00 and take care of the children's needs with her paycheck. And pay the remaining $700.00 out of the next month's paychecks. The cost of appointment is $1,500.00. The dad told Mom he sent a money order, April’s payment, he says was lost in the mail. And the dad is waiting for the money order company to replace it. The dad went and he also took the kids to the coordinator, he wasn't suppose to though. This is hard to say to keep to no details promise. Things aren’t allowed to go without bullying with the dad.
If you have a traffic ticket fine, and you mail a check or money order in to pay it. If the funds are not there by the court date or due date, a bench warrant is issued plus a very stiff penalty is added on to the fine. No matter what story you tell. I don’t understand what is going on here, do you? Not only is there no punishment for this apparent act, of being a dead beat Dad or orders from the court to fix the problem

Here’s a quick background of how we got here told by Aunt Deb:

Mom moved back to Oklahoma in the early 90's. Her then husband didn’t really want to be a dad so he left and went back to California.
Big Bubba and Mom moved in with Aunt Deb for awhile. Then they moved out. Mom worked and went to college and was on the Dean’s Honor Roll every semester.
Mom met the perceptive dad while working at a truck stop. They got married.
Had two kids - Mom hid problems of the marriage, until they had to move in with Aunt Deb because of money problems.
Aunt Deb and dad didn’t get along. Aunt Deb wasn’t under his control. She “spoke” with him on several occasions about issues concerning the treatment of her little sister, Mom, the children and the cats.
Since March 2001 Aunt Deb watched the kids while Mom and dad were team driving truck cross country. Aunt Deb stayed with the kids while Uncle worked. Most of that time they paid the bills. Mom would sneak money home when she could. Aunt Deb didn’t complain, she loves the kids. Aunt Deb has altogether helped to teach 3 siblings, 4 nephews and 1 niece to: walk, speak proper grammar ,go potty, say the alphabet, how to count, dress themselves, brush their teeth, manners etc. . Of course Mom and other Aunts and Uncles helped when they were around, dad wasn't very active with that part of the children's lives. The children know they are loved and well taken cared by the extended family.

The background of The Mom’s Family
Mom’s the fourth out of six children. 3 older sisters and 2 little brothers. Our parents never divorced.
Very strong Family Values.
Just normal Family values that the dad’s family don’t share. And that makes it hard. Your strength comes from your family. And as a member of our family we try to be good citizens and not be anti-social and not be a burden on society. I am trying to be polite about my estranged brother-in-laws family, and not to appear hateful. It is just that the two families are so opposite of each other. The number one priority of our family is taking the best possible care of the most precious gift from God - The children. After the children comes God, Country, being fair and just, kind, and respectful. The most important thing we all pass on to the children is tell the truth. The truth shall set you free.
No one in Mom’s family has told the children to lie to the Police, D.H.S., court or any attorney. This we swear on the Holy Bible for the lives of the children.
The kids had fun all the time at home. Birthday Parties, Girl Scouts, and lots of good family fun with friends of their own choosing. There was going to be a Pre-K graduation Party this past week. But the children were not allowed to see the family and celebrate this graduation. The normalization that we worked so hard to create over these past 4years. To keep their lives stable while the dad drifting in and out of the children’s lives for two years 4 visits maybe once a week phone calls. And then every other week calling all the time . Then seeing them once every six weeks
Because someone was not being honest, our hearts ripped out. And now we know dangers to the children will have to live with everyday.
We The Mom’s family know the dad and are worried about the safety of the children. This is not being vindictive. This is knowing what I know, things I can’t share outside of the courtroom, if I ever get to testify. Aunt Deb